Play the What If? Game

Play the ‘what if?’ game with yourself or with someone that is fully supportive of your overall brilliance and general ‘fab’ness (like a coach!)

For every thing you see as an obstacle in your life, ask yourself what you would do if it wasn’t an obstacle. This game is very effective for helping you to invest quality thought into the future you would like to see without being bogged down with how to get there. Remember, “The best laid schemes o’ mice an’ men / Gang aft agley”. I’m sure he didn’t mean to write that second line quite like that, but it goes to show how badly things can go.

The point being that it doesn’t matter right now how you are going to get there. What matters is that you entertain the possibility.

Example lines of questioning:

What if I could have any job in the world? What would I go for?

What if I had the money? Where would I be?

What if I could give myself the space I deserve? What would my life be like?

What if I was really good at what I love to do? How would I live my life?

This tool is great for entering into a dialogue with your constantly active unconscious mind who is creating a future for you right now this very second. Questions like ‘What if?’ can tease out a little more information about what this life of yours you are creating could be like.

Ten Steps to Make a Change

1. Find a piece of paper and a pen

2. List all the elements and experiences your life wouldn’t have – given the choice.

3. Throw the piece of paper away.

4. List all the qualities your life would have given the choice.

5. Spend time getting a kick out of imagining that life you would choose.

6. Choose that life.

7. Give zero attention to anything on that piece of paper you threw away.

8. Give one hundred percent attention and any more you can muster on the things you do want to see more of.

9. Enjoy the process.

10. Remember to look back on how far you have come from time to time.

Moment of Self-Activation

Every now and then a moment takes place in my life when I know that the process of change has begun. How is this spark generated and what keeps the flame burning while change takes place?
It happens on a day like any other simply because it is a day just the same as any other. It comes like a moment of heightened awareness. The mug of tea snaps into focus. The view from the window appears vivid and rich different somehow from yesterday, last week, a moment before. The scene remains the same, and yet somehow otherworldly. It is accompanied by a sense of a need for belonging to that other-world, that somehow the world I inhabit is no longer connected to the world I want to be in. There is a glimpse of the outer edges of the bubble I live in and a fascinating realisation comes to me. I could step out of the bubble if I choose.
Then the phone rings, or a client arrives. The email pings or someone calls my name and that moment disappears. I might forget about it for weeks while I get on with the business of living. All the time I dismiss those visions as daydreams, those ideas of a different life that pop into my head in the quiet moments. Gently, I realise that my life as it is may not be satisfying me any more. The reasons why I wanted all this have changed. They are less relevant than they used to be. This may be what I wanted, sure, but it isn’t how I wanted it. Now the moment has passed, the process has begun. Unconsciously, whether I know […]

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